In the last blog I mentioned I’ll be starting from this point. So here it is…
Pain can come in various shapes and forms. It can be predicted or it can come around the corner and smack you in the face! Now, when it is predicted, it doesn’t hurt, because you’re prepared. The real deal, is, what to do when you get smacked in the face with full force? And here’s also a thing about this smacking, you can’t control it, you don’t know how long it is going to hurt, even what to do about that hurt. And yeah, it SUCKS! BIG TIME!!
So, here’s what you do, don’t ever try to run from it (I say this, because it’s the first instinct), instead feel it. Yes it hurts, but I’ll tell you what, it hurts more when you try to avoid it. Try to feel it and it will lessen, even if just a little. Acceptance is the key to moving on from the pain. And we all know, moving on, in its true essence is extremely important in life, rather, is the necessity of life. So, sit with your pain. After acceptance, comes the clarity of thought and situation. Analyze the situation you’re in, if it’s anyhow your fault, forgive yourself, if it’s not your fault, don’t try and make it one and never try to blame it. Because blaming just ruins your mental peace, it stems anger and frustration, and both of those things never do any good to anyone! And when all your instincts about blaming will truly go away, you’d have a better understanding of the situation and clarity of thoughts to move forward.
Then, MOVE FORWARD! It’s the most arduous job to do. In your misery, you dream about living without your misery every single day, you even take all the previous steps and feel better and positive about it but when you’re truly ready to move forward, your feet freeze! You stop dead in your tracks. Do you know why? Because no matter how much you hate it, your misery becomes your comfort zone. It’s easy to feel and be in pain rather than try and do something about coming out of it (yes you may not like hearing this but it’s true). So yes, no matter what your mind tells you, or you feel like your body is against it, MOVE FORWARD, because that’s the only way.
In this article, i never said, it’s going to be easy. Every step is as difficult as it gets, but then think, what is life without all this? How do you grow, if not for pain? How do you learn humbleness, if not for pain? How do you become HUMAN, If not for pain?